It’s that time of the year again… Almost March, almost time to check in on ourselves and check our progression. Sadly, 1 in 3 people will have abandoned their NY resolutions by now. Heck, 25% already jumped off the wagon after the first week. And most would have quit by the 6th month.
So why do we sabotage ourselves?
New Year resolutions (or any resolution for that matter) are usually based on what we want to change for the better and success we want to attain. Our desire to progress, to grow. The problem is not in our desires or goals, but in our approach. Most people choose an all or nothing approach, cold turkey method. ‘I want to lose weight therefore I must deprive myself of all foods’. ‘I want to get this accreditation so I must study day and night hardcore until I succeed’. This is all and truly well, but studies have shown new habits take 21 days to form. The mind needs encouragement and love, and not negativity or a ‘you are not good enough’ mentality. In the extreme all or nothing approach, people will usually go hard or go home. You cave and eat a doughnut; you then think you may as well eat the rest of the box since I failed.’ ‘I studied so hard but I didn’t get through- stuff it I can’t be bothered trying anymore.’
Rather than just setting goals, first I want you to think about creating a lifestyle. It is not just a goal anymore, it is a change that could alter the course of your life for the better, alter it to exactly the way you want it to go, where you want to be. Each achievement is a step closer to your reality.
‘Sounds all well and good mate. But how do I go about this?’ you say. Well, I’m glad you asked!
Visualization and affirmation are the most powerful tools you could use. Read any self-help book, any business success story- it is all in the power within yourself, your conviction. How badly do you want it? How much do you believe in yourself to attain it?
Here are some easy steps to keeping yourself committed to your own successes. Own your choices, choose to beat your demons. The biggest gift we have, is the power of choice. We can choose at any given moment to eat that doughnut, or to foster that anger. Or choose to be kind and/or committed.
I would like to share with you 3 simple steps to assist you in your resolutions, in creating the life you want.
1) Visualisation. To see what success looks like. To feel what success feels like. If possible, incorporate all your senses into making the visualization as realistic as possible, such as experiences. You want to be fit? How will it feel to be fit, how does fit look? You might use new smaller sized clothes as motivation, or pictures for inspiration. Why will it make you happy? What does this happiness feel like? Will you hear the applause of your family and friends upon your success? The brain does not distinguish between reality and dreams- if you can visualize it to the finite details of exactly what you want, how you want it played out, and incorporate all your senses into your visualization, it will be so real, that you will manifest it into reality.
Be committed to this visualization, create inspiration boards (a collection of pictures, quotes, things that inspire you)
write out the scenario and thoughts, feelings of your success, using action verbs and past tense (I have, I am) as if you have already achieved
2) Positive Affirmations- create a book of quotes, or check out the project reality blog for inspirational affirmations. By affirming ourselves daily we reprogram our minds to think positively, our thoughts will be like magnetic waves of energy that attract positivity into our lives. Some affirmations could be ‘I am capable. I am on the right path’ ‘when you want success as badly as you want to breathe, then you will succeed.’ ‘I will succeed. Because I care enough to change’. ‘my life, my creation.’ ‘I choose. I choose to be happy, I choose to respect myself, I choose to forgive. I choose to let go.’
Affirmations with I have, I can, I choose, I will, I am are most powerful. I have affirms your success, I can affirms you capabilities, I choose affirms your authority and strength, I will affirms your action.
3) Share it!- Tell people you will do it! Tell yourself you will do it! Tell of your dreams, your visualizations and your goals. We are more likely to stick to our goals when we share them. It gives more integrity to our commitment when we are being held accountable. Don’t forget to fuel your conviction so strongly you see, hear, feel, taste and/or touch that success you desire. Write it in a personal diary, blog it, facebook it, join a focus group, in person. Anything. Not only are you now held accountable, you will gather support and more than likely you will be inspiring others to achieve their goals too. We are social creatures by nature that thrive off a sense of community and support. In interaction we bounce energies off each other, thrive off each other, and so let that be positive inspirational energy you emit to the world.
Commit to these and incorporate them into your live as daily practices. Every moment, every choice we make, we create our experiences which will impact the course of living a fulfilling life. These are simple habits that can help you to live the best life you want. I challenge you to take up these tools, and I challenge you to achieve your dreams.
Remember, conviction and commitment is key. Believe in yourself so great that nothing can deny your success. Commit to re-affirming yourself with positive cues such as visualization tools, affirmations, and nothing will stand in your way. That’s really all there is.
The fact you are reading this shows you care enough. Don’t give up, you are almost there. I hope this helps and good luck on your journey
Please leave a comment to share your dreams, desires and successes! If we can dream it, we can be it ; ).
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